Don’t feel you need to do something formal like go to the opera or theatre just because she’s older. She’s into younger guys because she still looks and feels younger than her age, so don’t be afraid to suggest something fun and relaxed. Ask her what type of things she likes to do and then pick something that fits your budget. Yes, you will be paying on the first date. Even if she insists on paying, tell her she can pay next time. You want to show her that you’re not looking for a meal ticket.
Lucia | on what to do on a first date in the Singular Magazine article How to Catch a Cougar

Cougar or Sugar Mama?

  • Blake: What is the difference between a Cougar and a Sugar Mama?
  • Lucia: This is a great question because many people often confuse the two. A Sugar Mama is a woman of any age who provides financial and material "assistance" to men, usually younger. She may or may not be a Cougar (over 40). On the other hand, a Cougar may also be a Sugar Mama, but not usually. She's generally not looking to provide for the Cub but rather either for a sexual fling or a relationship with a man at least 10 years her junior. Hope this clears things up!
Cougar Dating Advice: Dating Advice for Cougars and Cubs by the #1 Cougar Dating Expert | Lucia Be sure to check out the relationship advice blog from former Urbancougar of the Month and renowned cougar dating expert, Lucia! Oh, and go to facebook.com/Cougarexpert and give her a “like” on Facebook while you’re at it.
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Cougar Dating Advice: Dating Advice for Cougars and Cubs by the #1 Cougar Dating Expert | Lucia

Be sure to check out the relationship advice blog from former Urbancougar of the Month and renowned cougar dating expert, Lucia!

Oh, and go to facebook.com/Cougarexpert and give her a “like” on Facebook while you’re at it.

How to Catch a Cougar | Teleseminar with Lucia

Former Urbancougar of the Month Lucia is hosting a seminar for inquiring minds:

Do you want to date a Cougar but feel clueless and awkward?  Would you like to learn how to easily and effortlessly catch  the Cougar of your choice?  Then join Lucia on January 17, 2012 as she discusses the do’s and don’ts of approaching and meeting a sexy, sophisticated older woman - also known as a Cougar.

He’s with you because of your age, not despite your age. You have many things to offer which women his age don’t: knowledge, wisdom, life experience and no drama. Acting younger to attract or keep a younger man is a turn off. He expects you to be more mature and sophisticated. If he wanted to be with someone younger, he would be.

Lucia

Our resident cougar-cub relationship expert drops some knowledge in her recent blog post: Demi… And You: Mistakes Cougars Make